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[leia131]

If you go to a party and flirt with a guy, how can you tell if it's working? I mean, how do you know if he's not interested and therefore not responding, or if he's just one of those really awkward guys (which is pretty much every guy I'm attracted to) who doesn't realize you're flirting?




I'm willing to bet a lot of you have the same question.

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[doctorfumbles.livejournal.com]

*raises hand* I have that question, too.
...yeah, that wasn't much help, was it?

[bunyipflip.livejournal.com]

Having been one of the second options for much of my life I will say that it's likely the case. Guys tend not to notice girls are flirting unless they had the experience as "big shots" in high school, or something to that effect. It wasn't until I like... realized this and somehow overcame it that I started responding to flirts. But it took time.

The least effective thing you can do, in my experience, would be to become too flirty or touchy-feely with him. That's going to confuse him too much. Instead, I think the best route is to just keep popping up and being a friend, be nice, and keep interested. Eventually he may start to try and see you more and that's when you can ask him totally non-threateningly if he has a girlfriend, if he's doing anything "that weekend," etc. etc.

But again, let me tell you: do not be forward about it from the getgo. We geeks are a timid bunch, having been nestled to our mother's bosom for too long. If you are too forward he either starts to obsess about you or get scared and run the other way. It needs to build up, or else he'll never respond.

I hope that helps, despite being written by, for all intensive purposes, a "21-year old dude" who probably couldn't give relationship advice to an asexual amoeba. But I tried.

[limegreenpeach.livejournal.com]

Wonderful question.... its such a fine line.... By the way, you forgot your pink Little Mermaid hoodie shirt here last night and we have it for you :) Stop by before 3-4pm and you can get it, otherwise we will be gone!

[spazenport.livejournal.com]

Being not one of those shy guys...


I'd have to say Ask Him.

--Matty McWise

[leia131.livejournal.com]

Mmmm. That's what I was afraid someone was going to say. :)

[leia131.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the only problem is that I don't have the patience for that. You're probably right about it all, I just don't care enough to play those games.

[morning-dreams.livejournal.com]

GAHHHH yes. I have the same FUCKING QUESTION.

which guy?

[spazenport.livejournal.com]

I live to scare...